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What's that?
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Outercourse is an alternative to sexual intercourse; it is a sex play without penis penetration. It does not involve oral, vaginal, or anal sex however it includes holding hands, hugs, kisses, petting above or below the belt, oral sex play, anal sex play, mutual masturbation, erotic massage, body rubbing, erotic fantasy playing, showering or bathing together, strip-tease, and use of sex toys. |
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Advantages of outercourse.
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- Allows a change is the sexual relation.
- It can be performed even though a woman is in menstruation period.
- There is no risk of pregnancy.
- No body fluid is exchanged, providing protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
- It can increase emotional closeness between individuals as partners will feel better with each other nude.
- It increases sexual stimulation and sexual drive.
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Disadvantages of outercourse. |
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- It might cause stress in some people as if "how can this go further?"
- Some people might find it hard to abstain from intercourse.
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How to talk about outercourse with a partner?
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Here are some tips for talking about outercourse:
- Think about what kinds of sex play you want to do and don't want to do.
- Practice having a discussion with your partner. What do you want to say? What are all the possible things your partner could say?
- Try to have talks with your partner before you get into a sexy situation.
- Talk when you both have time and privacy for these discussions.
- Be very clear about the limits you want to set. Remember that your partner cannot read your thoughts. It's important to talk about what you want and how you feel. It's important to hear your partner, too.
- If you are feeling nervous or embarrassed, tell your partner. Maybe your partner feels the same way you do. Sometimes sex is hard to talk about. It's okay to say that.
- Ask how your partner feels about outercourse. Being honest with each other can make a relationship more fulfilling.
- Set limits upon which you both can agree.
- Keep talking about the sexual limits you set together. What feels good? What may not be working out so well?
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